Would you believe me if I told you I’ve won 100% of the street fights in my life?
This might sound weird – I know what you’re thinking:
“OH MY FREAKING GOSH! I didn’t know Jesse-san was a vicious street fighter! “
I’m not a “street fighter”.
In fact, I’m a total wuss; in 9 times out of 10 I prefer to stay home, eat a slice of carrot cake & read my Karate books instead of rolling through the hood with the homies.
It’s also true that I’ve won 100% of the fights in my life.
By never allowing them to happen.
Because to win without fighting is the greatest victory.
I’ve had many friends who’ve been kicked down, beaten up and even robbed.
From hearing about their horrible experiences, I’ve noticed something strange; no matter how much they bench press, or how many boxing classes they take, they keep getting into stupid fights.
It’s like some people attract violence!
I believe they lack something critical:
Like I said, the reason I’ve never been defeated in a real fight is because I’ve never allowed myself to end up in a situation where a fight was likely to happen.
And that’s how I win – over and over again.
I literally don’t let people know they could have fought me!
By following 5 simple steps of awareness.
- Don’t frequent shady places. But if you do, stay away from drunk people and weirdos. If you’re out clubbing, go home before the bar is empty. You don’t need to stay until closing time.
- Never walk, talk or act like a potential victim. Have swag. Carry yourself with an aura of strength. Don’t look like easy pray. Ooze confidence. Just don’t do it in people’s face, because that might actually provoke them. Try to sense peoples intent and adjust accordingly.
- See the trees, not the forest. Instead of looking right in front of your nose, try to see what’s going on twenty steps ahead. Take note of details. Like Wayne Gretzky, the legendary ice-hockey player, once said; “I don’t skate where the puck is. I skate where the puck is going to be”. Make it a habit to observe people’s body language from a distance. That way you can be proactive in your choices and actions.
- Swallow your ego. There have been many instances where I could have ended up in a fight. But I avoided it by letting the other person think they “won”. Many fights start verbally, so if you let the agressor think they won with words, you don’t have to make your fists talk. Ignore your pride. It’s better to have a broken ego than a broken jaw.
- Surround yourself with good people. The saying “you’re the average of your 5 closest friends” is very true. If you surround yourself with short-tempered, insecure and emotionally unstable people, you’re likely to end up in fights. A lot of violence is domestic. So make your environment safe and enjoyable – including the people in it. Stay away from loose cannons.
The list goes on and on…
Again, it’s all about a-w-a-r-e-n-e-s-s.
The bottom line is simply that I don’t enjoy fighting people. I hate getting hurt & I hate hurting others. That’s why I do my best to avoid it – without acting paranoid or crazy.
Don’t be a “martial artist”.
Be a smartial artist.
“The supreme art of war is to subdue your enemy without fighting.”
– Sun Tzu, The Art of War (6th century B.C.)